What do you find attractive in a man?
Does he have to be six feet or taller? Does he have to have a full head of hair? Does he have to make six figures? Does he have to drive a flashy car? Does he have to be the envy of men and women alike?
Does he have to look like a movie star or professional athlete or, heaven forbid, a rapper?
Have you ever stopped to examine why you think this is the kind of man you need?
Have you ever looked beyond the handsome, well-dressed exterior?
Is what a man looks like more important to you than the kind of man he is?
I’m going to be blunt here, so fair warning……
If you are still chasing the bad boy -- you need to grow up.
Bad boys, thugs, the formerly incarcerated, baby daddies, player, pimps are all persona non grata!
If this is the typical guy you look for be he white, black, Puerto Rican; then perhaps it’s time to look for something else.
Perhaps instead of looking for what every other women is looking for, we might start looking for and taking an interest in men who do not conform to the mass media is selling us as the ideal male.
It is important to work against this brainwashing. Over the next few months I will publish blog posts concerning our idea of what constitutes attractive and/or desirable with regard to men.
I’m calling the series ‘Re-Train Your Brain.’
The purpose of the series is to get us to notice/consider men to whom we wouldn’t normally pay attention. Not because they are persona non grata (see listing above) but because we accept without reflection popular culture’s definition of a desirable man.
Join me on the journey to discover men we wouldn’t normally consider as mate material! Your input is welcome! Your questions and comments expected!