Hate speech is hate speech regardless of who is speaking.
From the HipHop Industrial Complex
Rappers?!?! What are you gonna do? Have they lost their minds??? I am amazed (but somehow not) at how comfortable these guys feel spewing this unadulterated hate/disrespect toward black women, be it on YouTube or online print media. But then, they believe we are an easy target. Who will defend the honor and image of black women? Anyone? Anyone?
Black women, note to self, when a guy tells you he prefers white women because ww are beautiful and obedient and will not date black women because bw won’t bow down and think too highly of themselves, believe him!!! Don’t turn around and beg him to accept you, despite the fact he thinks you are unattractive and unlovable. Don’t ask him to change his mind about you and give you a chance despite the flaws he perceives in you because of your skin color. I mean, would you beg a racist white person to reconsider their opinions of black folk and accept you as a friend despite their perceptions of you as sub-human? I. Think. Not.
When the words of an individual or group indicate you are not wanted, don’t get mad or defensive or hurt, get thee gone!!! And don’t look back. Your were not meant to be a punching bag (literally or metaphorically) or a pillar of salt.
The level of venom, vitriol, violence contained in some of the blog posts and comments in the black blogosphere regarding bw in general and relationships in particular can be breathtaking (no, not in a good way)! It is striking how the comments of some self-identified black men are remarkably similar in tone and content to the white people on mainstream media outlets/blogs who routinely vomit the most hateful speech in relation to persons of color with little or no provocation.
And this is coming from black men!?!? Our black kings!?!? WTH! (What the heck)
Ladies I ask you, how can we save the black community with all the division and mistrust among us? We. Cannot.
The black community has already Balkanized along socio-economic, residential, educational and cultural lines. Stop looking back! Move forward!
From Black Women
I don’t know which boggles my mind more, the bw who agree with the bm promulgating this foolishness or the bw who apologize for the bm who are so traumatized by life under the constant oppression of ‘The Man’ that he strikes out at the people who have been and are there for him, the black woman.
There are some male-identified black women have completely bought into the notion of ‘black love’ and will accept any piece of man as long as she can say she has her ‘king’. This kind of women will harangue and harass other black women who refuse to accept the lowest common denominator as a viable mate. They cheerfully throw bw under the bus so they can be seen as a ‘loyal, nothing-but-a-black-man kind of woman. Get off the bus!
Don’t Believe the Hype
Resist this foolishness in all its guises.
You cannot reason with hate.
It is not your job to protect or defend the black community.
Being a black woman does not mean you are unsupportive, unreasonable and unloving.
You do not have to be a doormat to deserve love and respect.
You Must Remember This
You are beautiful, intelligent, and desirable.
You have the right to be loved, protected, and happy.
Never doubt the power of your femininity.
Never diminish yourself to make someone else feel better.
A man who requires that you be less; is less. Walk away
You. Are. Enough.