Thursday, December 31, 2009

New Year....New You

Mass Media

Those of us paying attention can see the writing on the wall. Mass media would like to make 2010 the year of ‘Black Women’s Pathology.

Their mission: Convince black women they are unlovable, undeserving and unworthy of respect, protection, and loving/healthy relationships.

Who benefits: People profiting from black women’s confusion, fear and low self-esteem.

Black Women

The question for us is how many of us will fall for the whole black-women-it-sucks-to-be-you meme. How many of us will buy-in, believe, and internalize this creation? How many of us will cooperate, repeat and negatively react to this fiction?

Our mission: Don’t believe the hype; dismiss the media and the profits of doom (yes I know how to spell prophets……but you get the point….right?); focus on how to improve your/our brand.

Who benefits: Black women.

What am I Doing?

In 2010 I will continue to:

Reject all attempts to pathologize me, marginalize me, demonize me, and minimize me.

Refuse to patronize movies or purchase books engaging in any of the above and which portray black women as pathological, hypersexual, undesirable, etc.

Refuse to watch (not that I have cable or satellite anyway) media ‘reports’ on the state of black women –you know- black-women-it-sucks-to-be-you stories.

Refuse to internalize foolishness, drama, and lies reported by, repeated by, and generated by the media, celebrities, ‘reality’ television, or the internetz.

Pledge know myself, honor myself, love myself, and respect myself.

Invest time in self-reflection, self-study and self-love.

Take positive steps to change what is not working for me (i.e. being open to moving to a different part of the city, country, world to find a mate – if a committed relationship is desired).

Affirm being single is not a disease, disaster, or death sentence.


If black women believe this myth is true; it will persist. If black women support it, internalize it and repeat it without critical thought; it will persist. I say we resist!

Resistance can take many forms:

Resist feeling less beautiful.

Resist feeling unlovable.

Resist the expectation/command to save everybody.

Resist the expectation/command to meet everyone else’s needs.

Resist the belief a piece of man is better than no man.

Resist feeling sorry for yourself if you are not in a relationship.

Resist feeling like it’s your fault.

Resist lowest-common-denominator behavior

Resist the mindset that you don’t have the right to a set of non-negotiables.

Resist! Resist! Resist!


Sunday, December 6, 2009

General Information....Graduate School Program

Saw this at the ‘Black Women Deserve Better’ blog and thought I’d pass it on.

Wake Forest University has an opportunity for minority students to attend its MBA program for FREE, and so far, the response has been very poor. Please, pass along this opportunity to your friends, families, and networks to see if there is an interest. This is a great school and a tremendous opportunity to attend a top graduate school.

See details below.

The contact person information is:

Derrick S. Boone, Ph.D.
Associate Professor of Marketing
Room 3139 Worrell Professional Center
Babcock Graduate School of Management
Wake Forest University
1834 WakeForest Drive
Winston-Salem , NC 27109-8758

email: derrick.boone@..
Phone: (336)..758.4475;
Toll-free: (866) 925-3622;
Fax: & nbsp; 336.758.4514

Message from Derrick S. Boone, Ph.D.: Greetings, I wanted to let you know about a great opportunity here at Wake Forest where you can get a FREE education and get PAID while you're doing it. Our Dean of the Schools of Business is the former CEO of PepsiCo and very committed to diversity. He's gone around to his CEO friends, who have agreed to donate a bunch of money to pay tuition and fees, provide a stipend, and a job, to diverse students. The details are below. The problem is, response to the program has been dismal! As a faculty member, I would be embarrassed for him to have to tell his CEO friends, "thanks so much for your donation, but unfortunately I have to give it back because we couldn't find Any students who wanted it." So, I need your help. Please contact me if you, or ANYONE you know is interested in the program. I want to help out as many young scholars as I can. Don't worry about whether or not you (or they) have taken the GMAT, etc. All you need to do at this point is JUST APPLY. About the Program: The Master of Art in Management program is designed specifically for liberal arts majors only. The MA degree program is a 10 month intense study of the basic functional areas of Business. After graduation and working for approximately two years, all MA graduates are eligible to apply to Wake Forest as part of the MA/MBA joint degree program and get the MBA in one year. The new Dean, Steve Reinemund, has created a new scholarship for diverse students pursuing the MA degree called the Corporate Fellowship. The Corporate Fellowship provides full tuition and a $21,000 stipend to cover living expenses. Additionally, each Corporate Fellow will participate in a practicum. The practicum has two components,educational and professional development. Each student will be assigned a mentor that is a high level executive with their sponsor corporation.The mentor will oversee an educational project covering 4 of the functional areas of business using their own corporation as the subject. The student will visit the corporation 3-4 times during the program to present his/her results of their research project. Additionally, the "professional development" component of the fellowship provides career coaching and leadership development for the students. The goal for the corporation is to be able to groom and hopefully, hire a top candidate from a diverse background for their organization. Of course, there is no obligation that the students accept any offer ofemployment. Still, the student benefits, even if they are not ultimately hired by their sponsor corporation in that they have the MA degree and the t ype of experience that will make them more marketable.



In the headlines

Black women are going to jail for selling their children for sex or killing their children or allowing low-life predators (boyfriends??) to kill their children or abandoning their children because they failed to make sufficient plans to have someone take care of their children before deployment or……..

At your local cinema

Then there’s the movie featuring black female pathology. Oh and the movie about black women and their tortured, insane hair pathology……

Alright, alright………… Hey, there is finally a Disney movie with a black princess!!! But why is she a frog? And how come the prince isn’t black?!!!!

Okay fine, but then there’s the movie……hmmmm, well there’s got to be something coming to a theater near you. Hopefully something that does not feature……oh…… you know……some sort of pathology.

It’s hard out there for the image of black women!

Historically black women have been described and depicted as: mammy, sapphire, or tragic mulatto. More recently we have: welfare queen, crack/drug addicted prostitute, gold digger,
hoochie mama/stripper, etc. Within in each stereotype lurks the specter of black women as licentious, insatiable, bereft of morals and unwilling/unable to care for their children.

A lot of black women are disturbed by ‘Precious’ because it is simply one more depiction of black women as pathologically abused and abusing. Further, it is not just the subject matter of the movie that concern black women, it’s this troubling fact: what other images or stories are being told about black women? BTW, I am invoking the FLOTUS/Condi Rice/Claire Huxtable exclusionary rule.

Some black women were also taken aback by the blatant colorism. Why, in this supposed post-racial country, is black skin color, especially dark black skin color, continually associated with ugliness, brutality, violence, ignorance, and immorality while, lighter skin color is associated with beauty, intellect, kindness, and compassion. That this reprehensible lie is perpetrated by people of color neither diminishes the sting nor excuses the purveyor’s attempt to connote inferiority through the intra-racial shorthand of colorism.

In the realm of movies, how were black women represented in 2009? I’m interested in movies featuring black women, not just where a black woman was the secretary, assistant, housekeeper, or best friend. Can you think of a rom-com or a sci-fi or even quirky indy film where the black woman was the spunky ingénue, or self-absorbed heart-breaker, endearing widow gamely dealing with the loss of her husband, I’d even settle for the evil boss bent on sabotaging the spunky ingénue!!!???

You see this is the point. There is no balance. Just pathology. One movie cannot do justice to the vast mosaic, potpourri, melting pot, fractal image comprising black womanhood. And I’m just referencing black women in America (well the U.S. to be specific).

And just like all those horrid ‘In-the-Hood’ movies only told one story over and over and over again, I fear a wave of ‘black women pathology’ will be the only lens through which Hollywood or the rest of the nation views black women.

This is not good for the Black Woman Brand.