Sunday, May 31, 2009

Self Love 101

Can you list seven things you like/love about yourself? Seven things, be they physical, psychological, or spiritual. Perhaps you like the color of your eyes or the shape of your lips. Maybe you are a good cook - or a decent cook - or maybe you volunteer your time for a cause close to your heart. Perhaps you love working on cars or you like sewing. What you like/love about yourself could be that you offer babysitting services (free) to family and friends to help the parent(s) out. Maybe you care for your parents. Maybe you dance well, exercise regularly or you are well-read. It could be you are going back to school to get you BA or Master's. Any characteristics, attributes, values, activities, principles; whatever; will suffice.

Are you able to list seven? Can you list more than seven? Do some deep thinking and see what you come up with. Meditate, cogitate, ruminate....and post something in Comments. Once you complete your list, notice what made the list. Don't judge the list please! This is not a competition. The list is neither definitive or exhaustive. The list can change at any time, you are in control of the list.

Was the task easy? Did you think of your seven quickly? Or, did coming up with seven things you like about yourself take longer? Do you have seven items on your list? This exercise is about what you like/love about yourself. Don't let other people's opinions overrule what you think about you!!! This list is for you, by you, and guessed

What's on my list?

Seven Things I Like/Love About Me (not in order of importance)........
1 Sense of humor
2 Love of reading
3 Commitment to family/friends
4 Open to new ideas
5 Gratitude
6 Healthy/fit body
7 Positive outlook

That's my this moment anyway. Now it's your turn. Consider what your list contains and let her rip!!!

Peace & Blessings

Sunday, May 10, 2009

'Are You 'The One' You Have Been Looking For?

Shortly after publishing my previous post, it occurred to me it was useless to search for 'The One' if you had yet to learn to love yourself first. IMO it is hard (if not impossible) to love someone else if you do not love yourself. Especially in the romantic sense of loving someone.

If you do not love, value, honor and respect yourself, how can you love, value, honor, respect another human being? If you have not put these beliefs into practice for yourself, how can you put them into practice with someone else? If charity begins at home, then love begins with love of 'Self'. I do not mean an ego-driven, selfish, arrogant, possessive love. I mean loving yourself completely, unreservedly, openly! Pimples, wrinkles, gray (graying) hair and all! I mean loving yourself simply because you Are. Because you are alive. Because you are breathing. Because you know from your soul you are enough just as you are. Because, because, because, because, Bee-caaauuse!!!!

Do you love yourself? Do you like hanging out with yourself on a Friday and/or Saturday night? Do you live your life in the now? Have you been on that cruise you've been dreaming of...even if you aren't in some way coupled? Have you bought a house yet? What are you waiting for? And more importantly, WHY are you waiting?

What is the road map to loving yourself? Are you the love of your life? Are you 'The One' you have been waiting for?

Sunday, May 3, 2009

I Can See the Light....but Where's the Tunnel?

WooHoo!! First post!!!

I have been reading posts by bw empowerment bloggers about improving self and creating the relationships women desire and deserve. If you are a regular reader of such blogs then you will recognize some of the initials (bw = black women). If not, I'll try to remember to define each as I go or you can visit the first wave empowerment bloggers {deep bow} to see for yourself. If you don't want to read yet another blog espousing views about expanding the horizons and options of bw in life, the universe and everything else....well, don't say I didn't tell ya....

Everybody (or almost everybody) wants a relationship...right? Isn't everyone looking for The One? Doesn't everyone value a stable, committed, reciprocal, loving relationship? I am being only slightly facetious when I ask the question.

When we say we are looking for our soul mate/The One/love-of-my-life; what does that mean? If we agree a stable, committed, reciprocal loving relationship is the goal, what/where is the road map? Can we at least get some general directions? Since we cannot google-earth 'Me' as the starting address and 'The One' as the ending address, I appeal to you, dear reader, to propose ideas for a road map. I am not interested in a map to 'casual sex', 'friends-with-benefits', 'wifey' or any other pseudo-commitment. I mean a long term, stable, committed, reciprocal, loving relationship most often defined by marriage (views on that in another post).

If the 'light' in my title equals a long term, stable, committed, reciprocal, loving relationship, then the 'tunnel' equals the road map/general directions. Remember, if you do not agree that a long term, stable, committed, reciprocal, loving relationship is the goal, then submitting a post is a pointless exercise. Please wait for the post about marriage. Give this some serious thought.

What works in the search for a long term, stable, committed, reciprocal, loving relationship ?